When someone says thank you for the work you did, and means it.
When you spend six hours polishing silver for free, and someone who got paid to set up the church slips it in with the list of other things they did.
When getting to be in charge means giving yourself the worst job and relinquishing control over the order of service you created for your team.
When getting to be in charge means finding little ways to make sure everyone on your team has a chance to do something special.
When the most important thing is that you did your best.